My thirties have been a bit more challenging than I had anticipated. In my twenties, I was less confident, but I felt less jaded for sure. The last five years have been a world wind for me personally and professionally. The highs and lows have been significant. We will all have adversity in life. It is not the adversity that is the problem, it is how you handle it. Feel your feelings, pivot, problem solve, and find a support system.
Feel Your Feelings
When life hits you with Adversity, it will suck. You will feel like the world is on top of you. Feel those difficult feelings, cry, get angry, be frustrated for as long as you need to. Ignoring your feelings is not healthy and will manifest itself in other ways if you do not deal with them. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad or angry. But, you cannot take out your frustration on other people.
Pivot/Problem Solve
While you feel your feelings, come up with possible solutions to your problems. If you cannot do this until your feelings have resolved, then complete the problem solving after you have dealt with your difficult emotions. When I lost my job, I felt my feelings while I began applying for more jobs. This strategy may not work for everyone though and that is okay.
Find A Support System
This was one of the most challenging things for me personally. Adulthood can be quite lonely and isolating at times. Remember your past interests or begin connecting with people with your current interests. Join a church and get involved with other young adults in various ministries. If you are not religious, find other common interests with people through your favorite activities.
Secondly, if you would like to begin dating, try logging on to a dating app for 10-15 minutes a day. Being single is not for the faint of heart. It does become more diffcult to maintain friendships with friends when they get married or have families. No pressure to date if you do not want to, but it can help you have a more consistent support system. Life is hard, but you got this so stay encouraged through the adversity.
Hope this helps,
Dominique Duarte
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